It was an interesting weekend around the derby-wright
household with screaming caleb Friday night and screaming jared Saturday night
and poor, stuffed up Caleb who couldn’t suck his paci for how stuffy he was…oy.
We made the decision Friday night with caleb to let him “Cry It Out” a method
that many moms today find barbaric and completely inappropriate. It basically
involves attempting to calm the screaming child multiple times without
successfully getting them to remain calm without being held. On Friday night
caleb wanted to be held and nurse…he had gotten in a habit of just wanting to
be held and the minute his little legs touch the mattress of his crib he starts
screaming again – which inevitably wakes jared…so instead of teaching caleb
that all he has to do is scream and we will come running I took jared
downstairs to bed with me and mommy stayed with caleb while he screamed for 2
hours before falling to sleep. Well…apparently jared got the memo that this was
a fun game and proceeded to do the same thing the next night…
We let the boys cry it out because for us it is important
for them to learn to self sooth – this is a crucial part of development…and
caleb has gotten into the habit of crying just to get us to come hold him –
which trust me I would love to take him into bed with us each night but we
can’t…it’s not safe for him and not good for us to let our bed become a family
space. Any way…we had two straight nights of crying it out and both boys did
eventually go back to sleep…both were long nights but well worth it in the
grand scheme of things…
All in all i'd say it was a good weekend.
it's always difficult when sleep deprivation and a desire to be everyone's everything comes into play but in the end it always ends on a high note...or at least a note of satisfaction with knowing i have an awesome family!
